Saturday, June 18, 2011

Chemistry of Dating


Today I mark the death of dating. Yeah..yeah I know what your thinking. Let kitty pull wool off your eyes. See, both genders has made so many rules when it comes to dating, that now it has become to complex for one to enjoy...I compare it chemistry. All these formulas and constructed elements.. just sucks the fun out of it.

You cant just go to the movies and enjoy ones company. So much pressure is emphasized on is he/she marriage material?..does this mean were boyfriend/ girlfriend? Why can't we just enjoy THE DAMN MOVIE!!!!! Why must me put Labels?

See the whole origin of dating was to get your feet wet, enjoy life and potential meet someone you eventually start a relationship with.

The difference now is we dont allow it to happen naturally. We try to force a flower to bloom. When we all know that with rain and little sunshine will eventually cause it to appear. Being inpatient, we over water the seed and over nourish it and it never blossoms.

I think time is essential, but in the mean time why can't we enjoy movies, dinner, or drinks. If naturally it turns out that he/she becomes your boo great! But if not whats wrong with having a great time with a friend.

What we fail to realize that it should actually be a fun experience. You meet different people, and when you get down to the science of dating it's a place for experimenting.

You put the wrong chemical together and it explodes in your face. It's okay dust off your lab coat and make note, that the particular chemical is highly flammable lol...

Put on your big girl/boy lab coats and snap on some goggles and go at it and rebirth dating

I say we call it dating chic*

Laugh, enjoy life and date chic ;)


Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Mr. Big King Of All Weeds :)

Every chick has her Mr. Big it comes in all shapes, size and forms. For me Mr. Big was perfect, or so I thought. See every girl at some point of their life has an epiphany, an ahh haa moment. My ahh haa moment came just in time..

I FINALLY SEE IT!! In all he was choking my growth! you know..Instead of giving me room to bloom, he was a weed. It was time for him to be pulled..

See the growing feeling of restlessness in my spirit that had me fighting against the constraints of my life and ridding my existence of any excess baggage and turmoil and drama finally! burst to the surface, awakening my senses and opening my eyes for what felt like the very first time.


Suddenly every word that came out of his mouth..every text..every faded promise.. sounded false, and hollow, and empty. His complete inability to ever let me scratch beneath the surface of who he REALLY was and get close enough to SEE and FEEL... his heart felt like laminate, or a shiny veneer; a smooth coating of what he WANTED me to see instead of what I NEEDED him to be. 


I suddenly realized that I was no longer in love with who this person was, but with the potential of who I thought he could be…and as my friend put it so succinctly at lunch a few weeks ago..” You can't date the potential of who someone could be. You have to date the reality of who they are.”


As Big went on and on about something –With random texts or calls and blah messages  – I managed to find my voice.

His lies and faded promises had completely filled my garden of self- worth.. what was once so pretty turned into something that no longer added to my life, but subtracted from it.. In all Mr. Big is just a minor player..in the much bigger story of my life. I’m no longer giving him more power than he deserve.. you learn that love doesn't mean leaning and company doesn't mean security.

I'm building my roads on today because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans, and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight. .After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much. So I’m planting my own garden and decorate my own soul, instead of waiting for someone to invade it and plant flowers disguised as weeds


So ladies it's possible to find a rooted strong rose within your self to finally kill these life sucking Mr. Big I call weeds :)

Friday, March 4, 2011

Crazy people


Working with the criminal justice system you see the most random things. I truly believe that if I spent half of my time blogging about what goes on at my job, you probably would not believe me.

Hell I wouldn't believe me too! Today defendants were in a cell passing a blunt to each other... The funny and also nasty part though, they are searched thoroughly, in order for something to pass you have to hide things I places that can't be found.

Is weed that important to you that you would smoke a blunt that was hidden in someones ass crack?!

More importantly why add another charge, and possibly spend a extra day in jail because you decided to get high off a substance laced with booty juice and shit chips?!

What happen to ones priority and common sense? And the authority to make conscious decisions...?

Thoughts...

XoXo,
Kitty

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Wednesday, February 23, 2011

The Revolving Door


Well hello, yea I know it’s been FOREVER since I blogged anything, well praise Moses that I found a job been with them for 7 months now yay. The bad part is I work weekends, holidays and my days off are in the middle of the week.

Now I don’t want to sound ungrateful, cause I’m not! But….this job has led to me to really cut off contact will people and miss a lot of events, like birthdays, new years, thanksgiving, Christmas. The thing is, my job is a 24hr operation so that’s why, I guess… (Shrugs). Working within the criminal justice system opens your eyes to crazy things that you only see on the wire (covers eyes)

Anyway, as far my love life I’m single….still, lol but hell I don’t even have time for one really (that’s my excuse so I don’t sound like a total looser). See I was talking to this one guy but he said “im not really looking for relationship right now, I just want to focus on school” and 3 weeks later.. Facebook shows me that his relationship status went from single to “in relationship “ with ugly red shape thing next to it. What made me even more upset was every time I logged on that was the first thing I saw on my newsfeed. Like shit, thanks facebook for reminding me for the 100th timmmmme!!!!!!

I truly believe in honesty, yea I know everyone says that but do they really mean it? Couldn’t he just say I don’t see myself in relationship with you? ..Or I’ve met someone else and I like her more. Trying to spear my feelings and lying just hurt me more than the fact that you don’t want to date me.

The other day I went to Macy’s and went through the revolving door, while pushing I thought that this door was so similar to my relationships. Guys who I thought were capable but….zip through. I just want one to find one that can actually stand still with me.

Then I asked myself, when it comes to relationships how many revolving doors do one have to go through before they get dizzy? And how long does the room spin in utter confusion?

Oh and by the way, i have been in this utter confusion stage for quite sometime..is that normal lol?

Thoughts?...


xoxo,

kitty <3

Sunday, September 26, 2010

Economically Raping The Poor


With poverty rates steadily increasing among African Americans it is hard to ignore the effects it has on American society and social intuitions. The increase of single parent homes and dependency on government aid has led many to believe that it is not only solely African Americans, or any other ethnic race group’s responsibility to high poverty rates.

Many are now realizing that some reasoning of poverty is due to the oppression of the higher social economical class.

Government anti-poverty efforts have made some progress but have not eradicated the problem. Similarly, periods of strong economic growths, which bring more jobs and higher wages, have helped reduce poverty but have not eliminated it entirely.

Despite the generally prosperous American economy as a whole, concerns about inequality continued during the 1980s and 1990s. Increasing global competition threatened workers in many traditional manufacturing industries, and their wages stagnated.

At the same time, the federal government edged away from tax policies that sought to favor lower-income families at the expense of wealthier ones, and it also cut spending on a number of domestic social programs intended to help the disadvantaged. Meanwhile, wealthier families reaped most of the gains from the booming stock market... hmmm??? Makes you wonder

Thoughts?...

Xoxo,

kitty<3

Thursday, May 20, 2010

J-O-B!!!!!!!!!


Okay….so I haven’t been keeping up with my blog…sorry I’m really been fed up and frustrated with finding decent employment that has benefits and 401k plan. I’M SICK AND TIRED OF SENDING COUNTLESS EMAILS WITH COVER LETTERS AND RESUMES!!!! Just to get a reply that I’m over qualified!

College graduate does not mean anything and I don’t think it ever did. If someone would have told me this 4 freaking years ago I would have tried something that guaranteed my ass a job…like a plumber, or hair stylist. But no, now I’m barely making it with 23,000$ in debt to my name. All my college degree promised me was student loans, and quite frankly they can keep that shit.

I went through my email and I counted that I emailed 109 resumes and applications, hell I change my resume so many damn times, I’m just over it all I NEED A JOB!!! HELP!!

Signed The:
Frustrated Broke Chick X0X0x0

Sunday, April 18, 2010

breakdown: how ideology of individualism shaped our perception about the causes of poverty, welfare, unemployment, and underemployment in the U.S


American citizens that are in poverty have endured not only the embarrassment of unemployment, under employment, inadequate food and run down housing but they also experience the rudeness directed at them by “better off Americans." United states have a main value system and beliefs, that everyone should work hard and strive to succeed in material terms, if you work hard you will succeed, and those who do not succeed have only to blame their laziness and immorality or other character defects.

This is similar to the “American Dream.” The American Dream is a deception, we are lead to believe that everything is equally or balanced. This very harmful for those who strive for this “dream” we have to find the difference between the right to dream and the right to succeed, it becomes psychologically hard to uphold and it is blurred politically wise. It becomes especially hard to maintain because the dreams keeps Americans from seeing the reality of daily struggles, and makes them believe they have “significant likelihood” not just a chance. The right to desire success, becomes an ideological replacement for a guarantee of success . So when some see the chances for success are slim to none the “American dream” changes for the worse.

The dreamer is let down, and can suffer great deal of failure and depression. It becomes detrimental because success is so central to the American self-image, it becomes expected as in hope to achieve. This causes Americans, who are not cordial about failure, reality becomes their fear and they are left behind.

America blames the dreamer if he or she do not become successful, or even think that person was not mean to be successful, it wasn’t in their virtue. The motto “survivor of the fittest” Horchild stated, “Hard work and virtue combined with scarce resources produce a few spectacular winners and many dismissible losers” this was the theme for John D. Rockefeller, a capitalist his thoughts were that individuals who did not become successful wasn’t because they did not try hard enough, but it was jut part of life that it was way of life balancing out “The American Beauty rose can be produce in the splendor and fragrance which bring cheer to it’s beholder only by sacrificing the early buds which grow up around it. This is not an evil tendency in business, it is merly the working out of a nature and law of god”

The “American Dream” is attempt to ignore social structure by creating excuses. Not viewing that it is hard for “everyone” to succeed in this dream with limited and scarce resources. Some people are poor because they are unable to work or unable to find a job.

They are many reasons for the unemployment, underemployment and poverty because today, as in the past millions of workers find it difficult or impossible to find work, particularly full-time and permanent jobs with decent wages, benefits, and security. As more companies restructure their workforces replacing many permanent workers with temporary workers or with lower wage workers in corporate facilities that are now going over seas for cheaper labor. Emphasis on the ideology of individualism has fostered a positive view of successful people as virtuous and a negative view of poverty as punishment for the non-virtuous.

Attacks on the poor have commonly focused on public assistance recipients, who are often seen as the most serious violators of the work ethic. While significant numbers of Americans have regularly challenged these hyper-individualistic beliefs, many still accept them. Challenging this hyper-individualistic value system is a countering value system that accents greater interpersonal cooperation, mutual support, and group- oriented values.

XoxO,

kitty